I am a middle school teacher. I used to be an elementary school teacher. My oldest daughter attended my schools from mid-1st grade through 8th grade. She was in one of my classes in 7th grade. There were never any issues.
Last year, Ms. Tween started middle school at my school. I spent the year ducking from the 6th grade teachers as she had a very difficult, ADHD-dominated year. She wasn't "bad", but she also never turned in homework and classwork and exhibited some passive aggressive behaviors.
This year, I am blessed with 2 of my children at my school and I now have child-related stress from 6:00 am until at least midnight. They are SO ADHD. They are very smart...advanced on all the state tests...but they are disorganized. They lose everything. They seem unaware of their environments and where they are in the moment.
I am an 8th grade teacher who is now ducking 6th AND 7th grade teachers.
Today, a teacher brought my son to my classroom at dismissal because of his attitude. I am having such a hard time with him. He is very oppositional in the morning and often makes me late. I don't know what to do because I can't just leave him. This morning, I was making lunches and he demanded that I sign his intramural sports permission form now. I told him it would have to wait and he said, "I guess you're going to be late for work then." I had a 7:30 IEP meeting (as a teacher) and I WAS late.
This 11 year old boy has WAAAY too much power. I am really struggling with how to get control over my household and implement appropriate boundaries for the kids. They are all feeling too empowered.